Staying connected as babies become kids

Fly my Little Butterfly

Each year of Zoe's life thus far has seemed like the BIGGEST year yet, with the MOST dramatic changes for her. From infant to sitting-up baby to crawling maniac to toddler, then from babbler to nonstop talker, and on up to almost-reading preschooler. Now she's evolving before our eyes from preschooler to a school-ager who can READ, and I can't help wondering when I'll stop feeling this amazed and blown away by it all. I love this mom's take on the phenomenon of watching our children grow and … [Read more...]

Our cosleeping transition timeline

Solo Sleeper 2014

For my own memory-keeping, as well as for the benefit of any new parents who are breastfeeding and cosleeping and wondering how to eventually transition from family bed to independent sleep, I am sharing our personal timeline here. We've reached some exciting milestones this year and transitioning our sweet girl into her own bed, in her own room, for solo bedtime, was our crowning jewel! I hope I'm not jinxing us by writing about it, but I want to capture all the details. March 2010 - we … [Read more...]

“Flynn Rider with dark skin”

Flynn Rider with dark skin

Last night, as I snuggled Zoe in her big girl bed at bedtime, waiting for her to drift off to sleep, she contentedly murmured, "Mama, I found my prince. I know who I want to marry." Intrigued, I responded softly, "That's great darling, who is your prince?" And she replied, "The Flynn Rider with dark skin."   I lay in the dark, puzzled, trying to figure out who she meant. I didn't really want to keep talking, because I wanted her to go to sleep, but at the same time I was … [Read more...]

She’s moving out already?!

Zoe & Mommy 2013

It seems like just yesterday our little girl was turning three, and now... she's moving out. I just don't know that I'm ready! Okay, okay - she's just moving across the hall into her big girl bed in her own room. She won't be sleeping snuggled in between E and I anymore, like a baby bird in a nest, as she has since she was a tiny infant. And believe me, I'm ready for it - we all are. But it's still hard! There are so many transitions going on right now. 2014 is a really big year for Zoe … [Read more...]

NYC with a three year old

NYC 2013

This past May, our family embarked on the second of six trips to NYC in celebration of each of our nieces and nephews' 16th birthdays. This year was Malachi's turn and marked our attempt to take on the impossible: a family roadtrip to NYC that would please both our 16 year old nephew and three year old daughter. You should know that I had several horrible nightmares in the days leading up to our trip. I dreamed that Zoe darted out into NYC traffic (worst of all, in front of a yellow cab). I … [Read more...]

How to exit the family bed

Sleepy snuggles 2012

I love cosleeping with our little girl, and I've written fondly about it before. That's not what this post is about. This post is also not about how to stop cosleeping with your baby or toddler once you've gotten into that habit. I haven't the foggiest idea how to do that, and I am the last person who should be writing a blog post about it. If and when we ever figure that one out, trust me - I'll blog about it, Facebook about it and shout it from the highest rooftops. No, this post is … [Read more...]

Thank heaven for cosleeping

It still feels this good.

Sometimes, being a working mom is so very hard. This morning when I dropped Zoe off for daycare, she cried. Not the big, loud, dramatic wails that say "I'm not getting my way right now and I don' t like it," but the truly heartbroken, silent tears of a little girl who simply did NOT want mommy to leave. It just about killed me walking out that door and leaving her. I know she's fine. I am thankful we have a great daycare. But oh, days like this are hard. To make matters worse, tonight … [Read more...]

Are you mom enough?

Nursing my beautiful 2 year old

Words cannot possibly describe how much I hate the headline on the cover of the current issue of Time magazine. You know, the cover everyone's talking about - with the oh so controversial breastfeeding photo. When I first heard there was a mom nursing a toddler or preschooler on the cover of Time, I was so happy tears literally came to my eyes. Mainstream media coverage of attachment parenting and extended breastfeeding? Hallelujah! But then I saw the cover, and I was horrified. Not by … [Read more...]

On mother-baby bonding

Lovies on the Disney monorail

For more than two years now, I've been thinking and reading about maternal-baby bonding. Google this topic sometime if you want to do some light (or heavy!) reading. It's wild what you can find - for one, check out this incredible video from Visual MD about the biology behind the mother-infant love bond. Mind-blowing stuff! From my personal perspective, I've come to marvel over the incredibly intense bond Zoe and I share, and I often wonder what came first - our breastfeeding … [Read more...]

A day in the hybrid life

Mischievous little Zoebelle

There was a time not too many years ago when it could be said I was living la vida loca, but no longer. Now, if I had to sum up my days I'd say I'm living a hybrid life. I feel really lucky to be able to be a working mom with a great career and job I love, yet also have the luxury of an extra day each week to spend with Zoe. On Wednesdays, for all intents and purposes, I'm a stay at home mom. We take mommy and me classes, we go to the park and library story time, and we hang out with … [Read more...]