Our cosleeping transition timeline

Solo Sleeper 2014

For my own memory-keeping, as well as for the benefit of any new parents who are breastfeeding and cosleeping and wondering how to eventually transition from family bed to independent sleep, I am sharing our personal timeline here. We've reached some exciting milestones this year and transitioning our sweet girl into her own bed, in her own room, for solo bedtime, was our crowning jewel! I hope I'm not jinxing us by writing about it, but I want to capture all the details. March 2010 - we … [Read more...]

The truth about nursing for years

Nursing Zoebelle through the years

I'm tired of nursing. 2014 is the year of the Great Wean for us. One way or another, it will all be over soon. I'm hoping it will be on her terms, and we're doing everything we can to make that happen. I have no regrets. Not many babies nurse as long as Zoe has. I say that not to brag, but because it's a fact. According to the latest CDC Breastfeeding Report Card: 77% of American babies start out breastfeeding 49% of those babies are breastfeeding at six months 27% are breastfeeding … [Read more...]

Finding the support you need

Mamas & Babies

This post is part of the Attachment Parenting Month blog event, hosted by Attachment Parenting International. Learn more by visiting API Speaks, the blog of Attachment Parenting International. Becoming a first-time parent is so life-changing that you can find yourself needing support in ways you are not used to. Whether that's education during pregnancy to learn more about the kind of birth you want to have, breastfeeding support immediately after your baby comes, family and friends who … [Read more...]

Are you mom enough?

Nursing my beautiful 2 year old

Words cannot possibly describe how much I hate the headline on the cover of the current issue of Time magazine. You know, the cover everyone's talking about - with the oh so controversial breastfeeding photo. When I first heard there was a mom nursing a toddler or preschooler on the cover of Time, I was so happy tears literally came to my eyes. Mainstream media coverage of attachment parenting and extended breastfeeding? Hallelujah! But then I saw the cover, and I was horrified. Not by … [Read more...]

On mother-baby bonding

Lovies on the Disney monorail

For more than two years now, I've been thinking and reading about maternal-baby bonding. Google this topic sometime if you want to do some light (or heavy!) reading. It's wild what you can find - for one, check out this incredible video from Visual MD about the biology behind the mother-infant love bond. Mind-blowing stuff! From my personal perspective, I've come to marvel over the incredibly intense bond Zoe and I share, and I often wonder what came first - our breastfeeding … [Read more...]

Friday Favorites: top 5 baby/toddler hacks

Zoe signing "more" at 13 months

I love and collect life hacks – those little tips and tricks that magically make your life better. In the course of becoming a mom, I’ve found there are parenting hacks, too – shortcuts, hints and practices that make life with babies and kids easier, more fun or less stressful. Are you ready for my favorite baby and toddler hacks? Happy Friday! Baby sign language. Before I had Zoe, I never would have dreamed this possible but preverbal babies as young as six to nine months really can … [Read more...]

Nursing helps alleviate working mom guilt

Don't feel guilty, mommy!

My working mom guilt started even before I had Zoe. I was still pregnant when I began agonizing over how hard it would be to separate myself from the little life growing inside of me - to not just be in two different bodies after all this time together as one, but two different bodies in two different buildings with potentially miles between us. When I toured daycare centers early in my pregnancy, I  burst into tears while visiting each infant nursery (so embarrassing). Some of the babies … [Read more...]

Attachment parenting: it’s how we roll.

Our family

This post is part of the What Attachment Parenting Is and Isn’t blog carnival, hosted by Attachment Parenting International. Learn more by visiting API Speaks, the blog of Attachment Parenting International. I’ve blogged before about how clueless I felt as a pregnant mom-to-be and how desperately I read, studied and researched, trying to get smart about this new little person growing within me and this brand new life unfolding before me. I knew this would be the biggest and best thing … [Read more...]

Motherhood is hard. Moms rock.

Moms are heroes.

Have you ever noticed that motherhood just keeps getting harder? I don’t mean on a big picture, culture or society level – I just mean on a very day-to-day, tactical level. When you are pregnant, you really have no idea what’s ahead of you. When you come home from the hospital with a newborn, it all seems so daunting and overwhelming! Then little by little, you get good at basic newborn care at home, and it starts to feel easy and normal. Then, once you have the basic newborn … [Read more...]

Leaving is the hardest part

could YOU leave this face?

Leaving a baby for any length of time is never easy - but leaving an attachment-parented, breastfed baby is the worst. As a newborn, Zoe not only wanted and needed her mama at all times, she also wanted and needed her milk. And of course, she wanted and needed it 100% more once she realized mama's gone! Such situations can be incredibly stressful on both the departing mom and the suddenly needy babe - not to mention the loving caregiver left behind, in our case Zoe's awesome dad. The … [Read more...]