The truth about getting older

This post is part of my Mommy Mythbusting series. Today, I'm sharing some personal reality checks about being a woman in my 40s. Scary, I know! I won't feel bad if you choose to skip this one. I've written before about the fact that this blog is partially intended as a memoir of sorts for Zoe to look back on, hopefully fondly, and see how very loved she was. And to remember what a wacky but lovable character her mom was. As such, I feel it is my duty to speak the truth about getting older … [Read more...]

OMG! I forgot about preschool

There's so much to learn as our little ones progress from infant to toddler to preschooler to school age kid. At first it's just learning about parenting and your child herself, but then it progresses to needing to learn about external things like swimming lessons (mommy and me group class or individual lessons? when to start? quick-results ISR or the gentle, longer method?), sports teams (how young can you start? soccer or baseball?) and school. If you're like me and you start out knowing … [Read more...]

Finding the support you need

This post is part of the Attachment Parenting Month blog event, hosted by Attachment Parenting International. Learn more by visiting API Speaks, the blog of Attachment Parenting International. Becoming a first-time parent is so life-changing that you can find yourself needing support in ways you are not used to. Whether that's education during pregnancy to learn more about the kind of birth you want to have, breastfeeding support immediately after your baby comes, family and friends who … [Read more...]

Thank heaven for cosleeping

Sometimes, being a working mom is so very hard. This morning when I dropped Zoe off for daycare, she cried. Not the big, loud, dramatic wails that say "I'm not getting my way right now and I don' t like it," but the truly heartbroken, silent tears of a little girl who simply did NOT want mommy to leave. It just about killed me walking out that door and leaving her. I know she's fine. I am thankful we have a great daycare. But oh, days like this are hard. To make matters worse, tonight … [Read more...]

A mom by any name

I once read that "Mama" is the same in many languages around the world, and that it's usually one of the first words uttered by babies. Zoe’s first word for me was “Mama” – spoken at first in many multiples, as in “Mamamamamamamama!” It was not her first word, though - that was "Dada." And oh, the smiles she gave him early on... and the laughter. I knew my baby was growing up when her name for me changed. I don't remember the first time Zoe called me "Mommy" instead of "Mama" … [Read more...]

Mommy mythbusting: selflessness

I'm starting a new series on this blog called "Mommy Mythbusting." This post will help explain how I came to be a mom after being happily child-free for so long. It's my first mythbusting post; you'll have to let me know what you think. One of the reasons I put off having a baby for so very long (til I was just a tiny bit shy of 40) is that I thought you had to be utterly selfless to be a mom. The reason I thought that was this: my mom is a saint - totally selfless and self-sacrificial … [Read more...]

Motherhood is hard. Moms rock.

Have you ever noticed that motherhood just keeps getting harder? I don’t mean on a big picture, culture or society level – I just mean on a very day-to-day, tactical level. When you are pregnant, you really have no idea what’s ahead of you. When you come home from the hospital with a newborn, it all seems so daunting and overwhelming! Then little by little, you get good at basic newborn care at home, and it starts to feel easy and normal. Then, once you have the basic newborn … [Read more...]