Hidden parenting milestones

There are certain milestones in parenthood that everyone preps you for - breastfeeding, the first time your baby smiles, when he or she rolls over, when he or she sits up, teething, crawling, standing, cruising, walking, potty training... the list goes on. But there are certain milestones that sneak up on you and happen before you realize what's going on. No one prepared you for these - they are what I call hidden milestones. Sometimes you don't know they're even happening until they're behind … [Read more...]

Staying connected as babies become kids

Each year of Zoe's life thus far has seemed like the BIGGEST year yet, with the MOST dramatic changes for her. From infant to sitting-up baby to crawling maniac to toddler, then from babbler to nonstop talker, and on up to almost-reading preschooler. Now she's evolving before our eyes from preschooler to a school-ager who can READ, and I can't help wondering when I'll stop feeling this amazed and blown away by it all. I love this mom's take on the phenomenon of watching our children grow and … [Read more...]

The switch witch trick worked!

I've blogged before about how important it is to me that we raise Zoe with normal, healthy eating habits and no unnatural sugar cravings such as the ones I've been plagued with all my life. Before age two, I tried really hard to limit her sweets but for about the last year and a half, I've been a bit more relaxed about it. She loves chocolate and ice cream and gets them from time to time, but not ALL the time - and certainly not every day. For a couple of weeks now, I've been dreading the … [Read more...]

OMG! I forgot about preschool

There's so much to learn as our little ones progress from infant to toddler to preschooler to school age kid. At first it's just learning about parenting and your child herself, but then it progresses to needing to learn about external things like swimming lessons (mommy and me group class or individual lessons? when to start? quick-results ISR or the gentle, longer method?), sports teams (how young can you start? soccer or baseball?) and school. If you're like me and you start out knowing … [Read more...]

Finding the support you need

This post is part of the Attachment Parenting Month blog event, hosted by Attachment Parenting International. Learn more by visiting API Speaks, the blog of Attachment Parenting International. Becoming a first-time parent is so life-changing that you can find yourself needing support in ways you are not used to. Whether that's education during pregnancy to learn more about the kind of birth you want to have, breastfeeding support immediately after your baby comes, family and friends who … [Read more...]

Thank heaven for cosleeping

Sometimes, being a working mom is so very hard. This morning when I dropped Zoe off for daycare, she cried. Not the big, loud, dramatic wails that say "I'm not getting my way right now and I don' t like it," but the truly heartbroken, silent tears of a little girl who simply did NOT want mommy to leave. It just about killed me walking out that door and leaving her. I know she's fine. I am thankful we have a great daycare. But oh, days like this are hard. To make matters worse, tonight … [Read more...]

Mommy mythbusting: selflessness

I'm starting a new series on this blog called "Mommy Mythbusting." This post will help explain how I came to be a mom after being happily child-free for so long. It's my first mythbusting post; you'll have to let me know what you think. One of the reasons I put off having a baby for so very long (til I was just a tiny bit shy of 40) is that I thought you had to be utterly selfless to be a mom. The reason I thought that was this: my mom is a saint - totally selfless and self-sacrificial … [Read more...]

Friday Favorites: top 5 baby/toddler hacks

I love and collect life hacks – those little tips and tricks that magically make your life better. In the course of becoming a mom, I’ve found there are parenting hacks, too – shortcuts, hints and practices that make life with babies and kids easier, more fun or less stressful. Are you ready for my favorite baby and toddler hacks? Happy Friday! Baby sign language. Before I had Zoe, I never would have dreamed this possible but preverbal babies as young as six to nine months really can … [Read more...]

Attachment parenting: it’s how we roll.

This post is part of the What Attachment Parenting Is and Isn’t blog carnival, hosted by Attachment Parenting International. Learn more by visiting API Speaks, the blog of Attachment Parenting International. I’ve blogged before about how clueless I felt as a pregnant mom-to-be and how desperately I read, studied and researched, trying to get smart about this new little person growing within me and this brand new life unfolding before me. I knew this would be the biggest and best thing … [Read more...]

Toddler etiquette: guys vs. girls edition

Is it okay to take a two year old to a baby shower? To a wedding? To visit a friend in hospital? These are questions to which my beloved husband and I had differing opinions, so we took it to Facebook this week for a little friendly crowdsourcing. He posed the question first on his FB page, and I followed suit by posting it on my own. The answers were pretty interesting. For the most part, women were more likely to check with hostesses before bringing a child to a shower or wedding. Some … [Read more...]