Essential oils at bedtime

Foot potions 2015

Wouldn't you love to have a magic potion you can pull out at bedtime and anoint your kids to guarantee a swift, effortless and peaceful transition to slumber? Yeah. So would I. That's not what this blog post is about, but if you know of something like that, would you please hook a mom up? Seriously, bedtime can be the worst. She's all wound up and crazy, primed for a fight. I'm all wired and tired. It's been a long day for me, but somehow not long enough yet for her - she just wants to go … [Read more...]

Staying connected as babies become kids

Fly my Little Butterfly

Each year of Zoe's life thus far has seemed like the BIGGEST year yet, with the MOST dramatic changes for her. From infant to sitting-up baby to crawling maniac to toddler, then from babbler to nonstop talker, and on up to almost-reading preschooler. Now she's evolving before our eyes from preschooler to a school-ager who can READ, and I can't help wondering when I'll stop feeling this amazed and blown away by it all. I love this mom's take on the phenomenon of watching our children grow and … [Read more...]

Our cosleeping transition timeline

Solo Sleeper 2014

For my own memory-keeping, as well as for the benefit of any new parents who are breastfeeding and cosleeping and wondering how to eventually transition from family bed to independent sleep, I am sharing our personal timeline here. We've reached some exciting milestones this year and transitioning our sweet girl into her own bed, in her own room, for solo bedtime, was our crowning jewel! I hope I'm not jinxing us by writing about it, but I want to capture all the details. March 2010 - we … [Read more...]

Summer fun Wednesdays

Summer fun Wednesdays 2014

What mom doesn't wish she could be in two places at once?! I am fortunate to have a meaningful, interesting job that I love. I am happy to be a working mom most of the time. I know there are benefits to Zoe being in daycare, especially since she's an only child. And I certainly don't have the fortitude to stay at home with her full-time! But oh, sometimes I mourn the loss of my Wednesdays off with her. Working part-time, while it had its challenges, was pretty much living the dream. Our … [Read more...]

She’s moving out already?!

Zoe & Mommy 2013

It seems like just yesterday our little girl was turning three, and now... she's moving out. I just don't know that I'm ready! Okay, okay - she's just moving across the hall into her big girl bed in her own room. She won't be sleeping snuggled in between E and I anymore, like a baby bird in a nest, as she has since she was a tiny infant. And believe me, I'm ready for it - we all are. But it's still hard! There are so many transitions going on right now. 2014 is a really big year for Zoe … [Read more...]

The truth about nursing for years

Nursing Zoebelle through the years

I'm tired of nursing. 2014 is the year of the Great Wean for us. One way or another, it will all be over soon. I'm hoping it will be on her terms, and we're doing everything we can to make that happen. I have no regrets. Not many babies nurse as long as Zoe has. I say that not to brag, but because it's a fact. According to the latest CDC Breastfeeding Report Card: 77% of American babies start out breastfeeding 49% of those babies are breastfeeding at six months 27% are breastfeeding … [Read more...]

How to exit the family bed

Sleepy snuggles 2012

I love cosleeping with our little girl, and I've written fondly about it before. That's not what this post is about. This post is also not about how to stop cosleeping with your baby or toddler once you've gotten into that habit. I haven't the foggiest idea how to do that, and I am the last person who should be writing a blog post about it. If and when we ever figure that one out, trust me - I'll blog about it, Facebook about it and shout it from the highest rooftops. No, this post is … [Read more...]

Parenting “differently” for different results

Zoe & Zaina 9-12

You know, whenever attachment parenting gets into the mainstream media – as happened quite a bit this summer thanks to the controversial Time magazine breastfeeding cover – there are always critics who say “That level of intense parenting is not necessary. My parents let me cry it out and didn’t hug me all the time, and I survived just fine. You’re spoiling those babies and kids.” But then I look at articles like this one in the NYT, which notes that there are strong links … [Read more...]

Finding the support you need

Mamas & Babies

This post is part of the Attachment Parenting Month blog event, hosted by Attachment Parenting International. Learn more by visiting API Speaks, the blog of Attachment Parenting International. Becoming a first-time parent is so life-changing that you can find yourself needing support in ways you are not used to. Whether that's education during pregnancy to learn more about the kind of birth you want to have, breastfeeding support immediately after your baby comes, family and friends who … [Read more...]

Thank heaven for cosleeping

It still feels this good.

Sometimes, being a working mom is so very hard. This morning when I dropped Zoe off for daycare, she cried. Not the big, loud, dramatic wails that say "I'm not getting my way right now and I don' t like it," but the truly heartbroken, silent tears of a little girl who simply did NOT want mommy to leave. It just about killed me walking out that door and leaving her. I know she's fine. I am thankful we have a great daycare. But oh, days like this are hard. To make matters worse, tonight … [Read more...]